MYTH 1. Boys can’t be sexually abused.
FACT: Boys and men can be sexually used or abused, and it has nothing to do with how masculine they are.
MYTH 2. It was his fault, especially if he got aroused.
FACT: If a boy liked the attention he was getting, or got sexually aroused during the abuse, or even sometimes wanted the attention or sexual contact, this does not mean he wanted or liked being manipulated or abused, or that any part of what happened, in any way, was his responsibility or fault.
MYTH 3. Sexual abuse is less harmful to boys than girls
FACT: Sexual abuse and assault harms boys/men and girls/women in ways that are similar and different, but equally harmful.
MYTH 4. Only gay men sexually abuse
FACT: Boys can be sexually abused by both straight and gay men and women. Sexual abuse is the result of abusive behavior that takes advantage of a child’s vulnerability and is in no way related to the sexual orientation of the abusive person.
MYTH 5. Being a male survivor means you’re gay
FACT: Whether he is gay, straight or bisexual, a boy’s sexual orientation is neither the cause nor the result of sexual abuse. By focusing on the abusive nature of sexual abuse rather than the sexual aspects of the interaction, it becomes easier to understand that sexual abuse has nothing to do with a boy’s sexual orientation.
MYTH 6. Males abused by females “got lucky”
FACT: Girls and women can sexually abuse or assault boys and men. The boys and men are not “lucky”, but exploited and harmed.
MYTH 7. Male survivors will abuse others
FACT: Most boys and men who are sexually abused or assaulted will not go on to sexually abuse or assault others.
SOME FINAL POINTS…