If you’re a man whose life has been disrupted by unwanted or abusive sexual experiences, you’re not alone. We’re here to support you in your path to a happier, healthier future.

At least 1 in 6 men have been sexually abused or assaulted.

The social stigma and silence around male sexual abuse and assault results in a lack of awareness and understanding about the effects of these experiences, and what men need to move forward.

The Issue

 

Many things qualify as “unwanted sexual experiences,” even if at first a boy or man was grateful for the attention. It could include an experience that a man may not be ready to label as abuse or assault, or even understand how it might have been.

Healing can begin when a man recognizes the possible connection between those experiences and common consequences – consequences that can include rocky relationships, lost jobs, self-destructive behaviors, depression, and even violence.

Whatever the experience, whatever the consequence, we can help sort through the confusion – safely and anonymously.

Stories of Survivors

Everyone’s story is unique, but you may find that other men’s experiences shed light on your own.

  • “That I can stand before camera, that I can stand before people and talk—it has been a long journey.”

  • Speaking out publicly and working to change Georgia’s statute of limitation laws have helped to Alan to get his power back, a crucial step in his healing.

  • Profoundly neglected as a child, then sexually abused by priests, Alan has finally found a community among fellow survivors at MSSAT in Christchurch, New Zealand.

  • Alastair has transformed his own trauma by creating community resources for fellow survivors, from Leicester, England to Phnom Penh, Cambodia, and soon beyond.

  • “[Poetry] seemed like the best way to express some of the things that were going on for me.”

  • “You know I’ve been sober for over twenty-seven years now.”

  • After 46 years of silence, Barry finally disclosed his secret, and now he is looking ahead to a new life of openness and activism.

  • Nightmarish memories have forced Bill to re-define his childhood, but he has embraced the challenge and the meaning it has given to the rest of his life.

  • “[Piano] feels like therapy. It really is healing, because I control the music and what comes out.”

  • “I wanted to know more about how to help people […] Nobody is talking about these things.”

  • “I guess what led me to come forward is these emotions were just rising.”

  • Overcoming a childhood ravaged by severe domestic violence and sexual abuse, Brent has found within himself a wellspring of compassion for himself, and for those who harmed him.

  • “I’m no longer comfortable being a survivor in silence.”

  • “I just wanted someone to see that I was going through this, and to kind of come along beside me.”

  • “We have to feel. We have to. We have to break out beyond… the ‘man box.'”

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