Millions of people around the world have found that hotlines, helplines, and various kinds of peer support have “saved their lives,” given them the hope and support they need to carry on, and greatly helped them to heal and overcome current problems.
However, as mentioned on the main Finding Help page, and as suggested by the names of the organizations and websites below, they may have points of view that do not feel true or comfortable for some people. Only you can determine whether that’s OK with you or presents some problems (however easy or difficult to overcome) when it comes to getting your needs met.
Also, some peer chats, discussion forums and groups are not helpful for some men. They may feel that other participants are somehow fundamentally unlike them. They may get freaked out by what others are saying, have bad memories triggered, and/or feel misunderstood and even attacked by others. Of course this may not be the case, and online peer support can be extremely helpful in many ways. But for some men, it doesn’t work out that way.
As always, we recommend that you pace yourself, take what works for you, and leave aside or ignore whatever doesn’t.
Finally, if you are in immediate danger, of seriously harming yourself or being harmed by someone else, we recommending calling 911 or going to the nearest hospital emergency room.
United States and the Web
RAINN: Free confidential telephone support is available 24/7. You can use RAINN’s phone hotline at 800–656-HOPE (4673), which automatically links callers to local counseling centers in your area with trained staff members who know about (1) the effects of unwanted or abusive childhood sexual experiences and (2) available local services; please note that someone answering the phone at a local center may not understand issues and concerns specific to men, and others may be trained on issues and concerns specific to men. All calls are confidential, and callers are encouraged to remain anonymous.
Peace Over Violence Support Group for Male Survivors — This is a psycho-educational and experiential support group designed to help men (18 years or older) recover from sexual abuse and assault that occurred during childhood and adolescence. The group will be led by two co-facilitators: Milena Lukic, MS, MFTI, and Joshua Beckett, MFTT and it will be supervised by POV’s clinical supervisor Brenda Ingram, LCSW.
This group will meet for 20 sessions and it will focus on the following topics:
- Understanding the impact of sexual violence and trauma
- Masculinity and male/Identity
- Exposing myths about sexual abuse
- Problem solving and coping skills
- Empowerment, self-esteem, and emotional regulation
- Interpersonal relationships/Intimacy
- Gaining control over your life
isurvive.org — Abuse Survivors Learning to Thrive — Volunteer-run web site and non-profit organization provides a forum for people to help each other by sharing their experiences, struggles and hard-earned wisdom. There are online chats and forums, including for those struggling with addictions and those who are abusing others, as well as friends and family members.
Living Well — An Australian resource which offers a range of services specifically designed to assist men who have experienced childhood sexual abuse or sexual assault, their partners, friends and family and service providers. They offer web services and resources, counseling and group support.
Survivors Helping Survivors: A Practical Guide to Understanding Peer Support for Survivors of Sexual Violence — This guide, from The Men’s Project in Ontario, Canada, is a great resource on the benefits, risks and challenges of peer support for survivors of sexual violence. It also has practical suggestions for creating and maintaining groups that can provide the greatest possible benefits for their members.
National Association for People Abused in Childhood — Another UK organization with an anonymous and confidential helpline.
Survivors Manchester — Survivors Manchester is a survivor-led/survivor-run voluntary organisation that aims to create and facilitate a safe space for male survivors of sexual abuse and rape to work through personal and sometimes painful issues. Survivors Manchester offers a variety of services including, Face to Face and peer support (The Safe Room).
Professionals: Please contact martha(at)1in6.org if you would like your support group considered for this website.
Disclaimer: To the extent 1in6 provides any name or contact information of a professional, support group, or other organization on this website or in response to your request for a referral, such information is being provided “AS IS” for your convenience only, and 1in6 does not endorse and is not responsible or liable for the actions or omissions of such professional, support group, or organization. Any treatment, therapy or other assistance, which may be provided by such third parties are not being provided on behalf of 1in6.