Men’s Stories / Memoirs

  • Wherever I Wind Up: My Quest for Truth, Authenticity and the Perfect Knuckleball

    by R.A. Dickey and Wayne Coffey, 2012

    R.A. Dickey, a starting pitcher for the New York Mets, beautifully shares his story of persistence and devotion to faith and family, as he works his way around the minor leagues for years, fighting memories of a sexually abusive past and baseball heartache, to eventually find happiness and big league success through therapy, faith, and the knuckleball.

  • Boys Don’t Tell: Ending the Silence of Abuse

    by Randy Ellison

    Recounting the author’s story based on his own denial, Boys Don’t Tell takes a subjective look back at a life distorted by the effects of childhood sexual abuse and offers insight on why survivors find it so difficult to “just get over it and move on.” Through the eyes and emotions of the author, this book reveals his abuse as a teenager by a trusted minister and mentor, then recounts years of therapy, a formal complaint to The Church, and a lawsuit settled in mediation.

  • What’s Driving You??? How I Overcame Abuse and Learned to Lead in the NBA

    by Keyon L. Dooling

    During his twelfth NBA season, Keyon Dooling stood at the top of his game as the designated team leader of the Boston Celtics, firing up his teammates with the ringing challenge, "What s driving you?"

    In his memior  “What’s Driving You?” Dooling describes his climb through the ranks of the NBA, the effects of a childhood experience that shadowed him during his entire successful pro basketball career and the hidden trauma that led to his widely publicized breakdown.

    This inspiring story of courage and resilience shows the healing power of helping others and the critical importance of self care.

  • Empty Playground: A Survivor’s Story

    by Callen Harty

    It has only been in the last decade or so that men who have experienced sexual trauma have been added to the discussion about sexual abuse and assault. The topic has more recently become recognized, particularly with the revelations of several well-known survivors, among them basketball player Keyon Dooling, hockey player Theo Fleury, and actor Tyler Perry. They have all told their stories. There are countless other stories out there about ordinary people who have survived similar abuse, but most of them remain untold.

    Empty Playground is a memoir that shares the journey from childhood sex abuse through the struggle to cope with the repercussions and into recovery and healing. It is a story often lived but not often told as men, both gay and straight, are so reluctant to speak about their abuse and often stay silent about their emotions as well.

    In Empty Playground, Callen Harty recounts his experiences with an unflinching directness and gentle honesty.

  • Sidestepping the Pit: How I Survived Sexual Assault Without Drugs, Alcohol, or Depression, and Forgave My Attacker

    By Knight Chamberlain, 2016

    Follow Knight's confounding, surprising, and ultimately life-affirming journey, which led him over time to forgive his childhood attacker and find the courage to share his story and help others.

  • Never Let Me Go

    by Chuck Rosenthal, 2004

    This gripping memoir recounts life as the ‘favorite boy’ of a sexually abusive coach. The story is both uncommon (bizarre sex acts, twisted ‘mentoring’ of his basketball playing and intellectual development) yet all too common. Any man who’s attempted to deal with such betrayal and mind games by a sexually exploitive coach will find understanding, and healing, in this remarkable book.

  • The Tricky Part: A Boy’s Story of Sexual Trespass, a Man’s Journey to Forgiveness

    by Martin Moran, 2006

    Moran, a gay man and a successful stage actor and writer, was sexually seduced and exploited by a Catholic church camp counselor. With great insight he tells the complex stories of their relationship, how it affected him, including sexual addiction, and how he’s found healing.

  • Nice to Meet Me: One Man’s Journey Through Therapy for Sexual Abuse to Meet the Boy He Left Behind

    by Chris Carlton, 2012

    In this unique book, Carlton walks readers through the first 15 months of his healing journey, 'from when my trembling hand first opened the door to a therapist’s office to when I finally noticed myself enjoying life again – and all of the fear, the pain, the confusion, the laughter, and the tears in between.' His writing is clear, insightful, humble and funny. A former Navy intelligence officer with an MBA who managed advertising for ESPN, Carlton is a guy with whom many can relate. One caution: readers may need to protect themselves from comparing the pace of their own unique healing processes – or that of someone they love – to his description of the high speed of his.

  • Father’s Touch: A Survivor’s Memoir of Sexual Abuse & Faith

    by Donald D’Haene, 2002

    By a man whose entire family was abused by his father. As one reviewer comments, the author writes as someone who, ‘although raised in an atmosphere of violence and cruelty, seems never to have abandoned his own gentle and loving nature.’

  • Half the House: A Memoir

    by Richard Hoffman, 1995

    By a man who grew up in a working class Pennsylvania family and was sexually abused by a coach. The story of how he managed to overcome his past and ultimately reconcile with a father who had abused him.

  • Transparent

    by Don Lemon, 2011

    A courageous book by a CNN Anchor who’s overcome some major challenges – childhood sexual abuse, being a gay African American man – to excel with integrity in the world of TV journalism. Lemon reflects on his experiences and lessons learned, from growing up in Baton Rouge, Louisiana to covering some of the biggest stories of the past 20 years.

  • In My Father’s Arms: A True Story of Incest

    by Walter De Milly, 1999

    By a man who was abused by his all-American father. Particularly good at conveying dissociative responses to chronic abuse.

  • Rescuing Little Roundhead

    by Syl Jones, 1996

    By an African American man who reclaimed his life after childhood experiences of abuse and racism. As one reviewer notes, ‘Reaffirms that much can be made of a life that at the outset seems to have little going for it.... A poignant story about the power of perseverance.’