See also our recommended books on Relationships and Intimacy.
by Laura Davis, 1991
An extremely helpful book for those in intimate relationships with men (or women) who were sexually abused as children. Covers every topic and question you might have. Very helpful for both people in the relationship, actually, not just the partner.
By Andrew J. Schmutzer
A Christian/theological book with contributions from 27 people. Dr. Schmutzer uses a collaborative approach to address childhood sexual abuse from a psychological, theological, and pastoral care perspective.
by Eliana Gil, 1983
This great book, like all of Dr. Gil’s, is short, very easy to read, and best for people beginning to deal with the issues involved.
When a Man You Love Was Abused: A Woman’s Guide to Helping Him Overcome Childhood Sexual Molestation
by Cecil Murphey, 2010
Written for Christian wives and girlfriends of men who were sexually abused as children, by a best-selling Christian minister and author, this book is a gift – full of insights, wisdom and practical advice. In the first part, “Who He Is,” Murphey writes with great clarity and compassion, and without judgment, about his own experiences of abuse and healing, as well as the experiences of many other men he knows. The second part, “How You Can Help Him,” provides practical and caring advice on more than 20 key topics, including “Accept His Unspeakable Problem,” “Accept His Pain,” “Respect His Privacy,” and “Let Him Move at His Own Pace.” Though written for Christians, any non-Christian who is OK with occasional (thoughtful) references to God, Jesus and prayer can benefit greatly from this book.
by Ginny NiCarthy, 2004
It's definitely not true that all abused men become abusers, but some do. Latest edition of an amazing book that has helped many, many women for over 20 years. The information and tools needed to recognize and sort out what’s happening in the relationship - emotional abuse, physical abuse, etc. - make wise decisions and take effective action.