Here you’ll find some very good reasons to be hopeful about him overcoming the effects of unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood.
30 years of experience and research. That’s how long therapists have been helping men sort though their experiences and find the happy and healthy lives they want, and researchers have been studying these issues.
There are stages of change involved in overcoming problem behaviors (like addictions to alcohol or porn) and, more generally, in dealing with anything that we wish weren’t part of our lives (like the effects of unwanted sexual experiences in childhood). Understanding these stages means knowing that you can keep moving forward, no matter how hopeless it can feel at times.
There are stages of recovery that both men and women go through to overcome the effects of unwanted or abusive childhood sexual experiences. These stages map a path that many others, including people who have been terribly abused, have taken with success.
Our Get Help section has a very hopeful message too, and lots of information about where and how you may be able to find help sorting things out and dealing with problems related to unwanted or abusive childhood experiences.
Finally, Other Guys Like Him includes hopeful and inspiring stories of men, once where he is now now, who came out the other side to lead happier and healthier lives than they imagined was possible.
Both of you can deal with what happened, and live a happy and rewarding life.