Welcome.

If you had a childhood experience like theirs, or think you might have, you are not alone. Researchers estimate that 1 in 6 men have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences before age 18.

Whatever your situation, our first and most important piece of advice: Find your own pace.

• You can learn a lot here, starting now. As much as you are ready to learn.
• But you don’t have to figure out everything right away. If that’s a pressure you feel, we totally understand. We also know that, if you don’t pace yourself, going full steam ahead can create problems.
• Remember, you always have options, like leaving and coming back later.
• This site is here for you, and it’s not going away.

Where to start depends on where you are, what you need right now, and where you’re headed.

Maybe you have one of these Common Questions:

• I’m having a crisis or freaking out: Where can I get help now?
• Is this site for me?
• Are other guys going through the same things I am?
• Do you have real examples of men overcoming this stuff? Real success stories?
• Can you help me find good therapy or counseling?
• How can I know if I was ‘sexually abused’?
• Does it matter what I call what happened?
• How can I understand the effects of what happened to me?
• Should I tell my partner?
• Why do people sexually use or abuse children?
• Am I going to become an abuser? What if I already have?
• What if someone else sent me here?