Peter Pollard

Mending Fences

Originally published on May 15, 2014 I’ve always been intrigued by the different choices people make, while working to restore good boundaries in their life after an experience of abuse. Whether it’s re-establishing the broken boundary with the abusive person, or finding a safe way to relate to others, the memory of betrayed trust can complicate decisions about how… Learn more »

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Following Your Bliss

One definition of bliss is to reach a state of perfect happiness, typically so as to be oblivious of everything else. Another explanation of bliss is that bliss is the pathway to happiness. Happiness is a state of mind and following your bliss is how you get there. Renowned scholar Joseph Campbell, who studied the… Learn more »

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Supporting a New Frontier of Anti-Sexual Violence Work

I was pleased to join the work of as a new Board Member in June. In the three-plus decades that I have been involved in the anti-violence movement, I have witnessed the movement grow to reach new constituencies, and embrace new approaches unique to the needs of particular client groups. Along the way, we… Learn more »

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Forgiveness vs. Reconciliation

In my experience, one path to true happiness and freedom is forgiveness, which is why I love writing about it. I grew up hearing, “Randy you just have to forgive, forget and move on.” These words only made me cringe and sent me into a fit of rage. Today, I will tell you that, in… Learn more »

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Earlier this year, Parul Sehgal wrote an essay examining “compulsory survivorship”—the tendency to label everyone who has had an abusive or unwanted sexual experience as a survivor. This is usually considered a direct response to casting these individuals as victims, which some find to be not representative of the strength and courage that it takes… Learn more »

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