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A Closed Chapter

If you have been following me, you know that forgiveness is one of my favorite topics. It is also the one topic I struggled with most in my life. For most of my adult life, or at least until I entered into recovery, I heard these words more than a cared to: “Randy you just… Learn more »

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Redefining Forgiveness

Many believe it is not necessary to forgive the person who hurt you, in order to heal. As part of my healing journey, I found that I had to redefine forgiveness for myself, because the self-righteous fake variety didn’t work for me. Neither did the idea that forgiveness was something I had to do to… Learn more »

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November/December 2016 Newsletter

Dear Friends, Happy Holidays! Every year at this time, I pen a letter to thank all of you for your part in the good fortune that we’ve enjoyed! This year is no different, and in fact, this may be one of my most important Thanksgiving letters to date. This has been a milestone year for… Learn more »

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Three Lessons in the Meaning of Community

On Wednesday, October 5th, I flew over the beautiful, rugged landscape of western New Mexico, bound for Phoenix. I looked ahead to an intense four days in Arizona – three public events plus a clinical evaluation of a man facing capital murder charges. Like many such trips, I looked ahead to a mixture of non-stop… Learn more »

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Self-Acceptance

One of the affects of my abuse that has followed me into my adult life until just recently is being accepted. Often, male survivors not only face an internal battle for self-acceptance, but an external one as well. Because I could not accept myself internally, I sought external acceptance. From the very first time I… Learn more »

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