Over the last eight years, 1in6 has become a respected leader in the effort to support men who had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood to live healthier, happier lives. That’s our mission. It doesn’t really sound like prevention. Are we missing the boat?
1in6 doesn’t present itself as a “primary prevention” organization. But there’s actually more going on than initially meets the eye.
Though our focus is unambiguously on helping men (and those who care about them) understand and heal from past troubling sexual experiences, we’re acutely aware of the potential benefit of our work to preventing future harm as well.
Since most of us are raised in cultures where males are often shamed or ridiculed for revealing vulnerability or for expressing feelings of sadness or fear or hurt, it can require great courage for a boy or man to acknowledge having been abused sexually. Most don’t. And as a result, many people are simply unaware, or possibly even defended against believing how widespread sexual abuse of boys actually is. So, spreading awareness that one of every six adult men in the U.S. (21 million men) has experienced sexual abuse in childhood can play a critical role in highlighting risk and encouraging preventive actions before a child is harmed.
Simply stated, you’re not likely to recognize risks or to take steps to prevent harmful behavior if you don’t know or don’t believe there’s a real risk that those behaviors will occur.
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and others have defined three kinds of preventive actions, which they often refer to as primary, secondary and tertiary prevention. They all depend on raising awareness about specific risks and addressing those risks.
Childhood vaccinations are an example of Primary Prevention. Ideally, everyone gets them—not just kids who are immune-deficient or who come from families where there’s been chicken pox or measles before. All kids are vaccinated regardless of risk. Everyone’s protected.
The same is true with primary prevention of sexual abuse. Ideally everyone is given the same knowledge about the prevalence of abuse, about good interpersonal boundaries and healthy sexuality, about recognizing sexualized behaviors that could harm any child. When adults and children are vaccinated with that knowledge, all children are better protected. And when those risky behaviors appear, (see “Warning Signs at StopItNow.org) everyone has access to information about how to get outside help before a child is harmed.
Because even though our stated mission is about “intervention,” after the fact—we address all those “primary prevention” issues in depth as we guide people who’ve experienced abuse toward healing and recovery, and as we work to make everyone more aware of the prevalence and impact of abuse.
The same holds true for secondary and tertiary prevention—efforts directed at people who are at higher risk than others, those with particular characteristics or experiences, different from the norm, which make them more vulnerable. Not surprisingly, research shows us that both boys and men who have once experienced sexual, physical or emotional abuse are at a higher risk for subsequent victimization, especially if they haven’t received help to cope effectively with the resulting feelings. (The same is true for women and girls).
Men are particularly vulnerable here because of the social prohibitions against describing their emotional distress, expressing feelings other than anger, or asking for help. So men’s substitute, coping strategies can often lead to emotionally numbing compulsive behaviors, or addictions to things like drugs, alcohol, work, food, sex, dangerous activities, and exercise; or to other more extreme negative behaviors, like physical, emotional or sexual violence against themselves or others.
Once again, a huge part of 1in6’s approach to healing involves encouraging men to explore those prohibited feelings, to understand and to begin to develop, different, safer, healthier means of coping with them. This sort of intervention can have a crucial impact on a man’s ability to avoid his own re-victimization as well as changing his behaviors that are harmful to others. And our focus in our professional trainings on a trauma-informed understanding of men’s ineffective coping strategies highlights the clear role service providers can have by recognizing the links between addressing men’s past traumatic experiences and diminishing the risk for future harmful actions.
1in6’s mission is still about healing and recovery. It’s unlikely that we’ll ever bill ourselves primarily as a “prevention” organization. But everything we do is geared toward supporting men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood to become healthier, happier, more respectful and productive members of our families and communities. A crucial piece of that effort is educating the world about the prevalence of abuse of boys, its impact and how to help. And when all is said and done, it’s hard to imagine a better prescription than that for prevention.
For more information, ideas and resources about Preventing Sexual Abuse of Children, visit www.StopItNow.org