The websites below address the experiences and needs of men who have had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood. They tend to assume that you’ve already defined or labeled yourself as someone who was ‘sexually abused’ and as a ‘survivor’. If that kind of assumption and language could put you off, then keep that in mind as you decide whether, when, and how to visit these sites.
This is not a comprehensive list of sites. We’ve picked ones that we’re comfortable recommending, though we certainly can’t promise that you’ll be comfortable with everything you’ll find on them. As always, pace yourself, take what works and leave the rest.
Living Well is a Queensland, Australia organization with an amazing website with tons of information. They offer a range of resources and services for men who have experienced childhood sexual abuse or sexual assault, their partners, friends and family, and service providers.
MaleSurvivor: Overcoming Sexual Victimization of Boys & Men — Their mission is “preventing, healing, and eliminating all forms of sexual victimization of boys and men through treatment, research, education, advocacy, and activism.” Their site has many resources, including A Consumers Guide To Therapist Shopping and a page where you can search for therapist– and peer-led support groups in the U.S. and Canada (search results provide information about each specific group, and contact info for learning more). The organization also offers “Weekends of Recovery” several times a year.
Male Childhood Sexual Abuse Survivors — The site is part of MenWeb and includes a collection of writings by Scott Abraham, including Healing from Childhood Sexual Abuse: Book Reviews, his very helpful review of eight books.
Kali Munro.com — Site of a therapist with articles about and for men with histories of unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood, including Male-to-Male Child Sexual Abuse in the Context of Homophobia, Female Perpetrators / Male Sexual Abuse Victims: Society’s Betrayal of Boys, and The Treatment Needs of Sexually Abused Men.
Richard Gartner, Ph.D. — Dr. Gartner has written books an articles on the sexual abuse of males and their treatment in therapy, and is past president of MaleSurvivor. His website has many resources, including writings and testimony by Gartner on a variety of issues relevant to males with histories of unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood.